15 sex games to spice up your sex life

Nobody likes playing games in a relationship. However, when it comes to sex, it’s good to add an element of fun by spicing things up with sex games. You don’t have to turn sex into a sport or introduce a score board; you just have to find imaginative ways to add extra activities into foreplay that will take the sex factor up a notch. 

Even though intimacy in any form is crucial in relationships, adding elements of fun into your sex life is “extremely important” too, says Dr Angela Tan, CEO and principal coach at Academy Of Relationship & Sex (ARAS). 

“A number of dead bedroom situations arise from a routine sex life which operates out of familiarity or obligation,” she explains. “Over time, this investment of time and effort – which is no longer rewarding – becomes a drag. And frequency reduces. And that is how we get a dead bedroom situation.

“Fun not only prevents the above, but also helps us understand our body and our partner’s needs and desires better,” she adds. 

You could either buy sex games from specialty stores or you could make up your own, tailored to the types of activities you enjoy doing together. Think dirty truth or dare/would you rather, give your favourite songs a naughty twist or invent a sexy drinking game (just don’t get too inebriated before the real fun begins). You could even play traditional board or card games but give them a twist – naked scrabble, anyone?

Make them as romantic or as kinky as you want, depending on how open both of you are to such games. It could be played as a form of foreplay or involve the deed itself – the choice is entirely up to you. As long as it’s fun and consensual, go forth and enjoy.

You might have the intention of introducing sex games into your relationship but it might not always be easy to initiate them with your partner. After all, they might not be as keen on adding this new element as you are. Or perhaps you’re not quite sure how to even broach the subject. Angela’s advice is – to simply talk about it!

“If you’re shy, try downloading a yes-no-maybe list as a conversation starter. Or go online shopping for games with your partner,” she recommends. 

Perhaps you’re looking to make it more exciting between the sheets (or elsewhere). Or maybe you’ve been with your partner for a long time and you want to try something different by switching up foreplay. Whatever your reason for adding sex games into your relationship’s equation, they certainly make frolicking even more fun. 

Angela recommends the following five sex games:

Role play: “There are card games that help you describe a scenario, so you don’t have to come up with one. Experimenting a different approach may bring new surprises,” she explains.

Throw the sex dice: This chalks up a high score on the ‘good fun for randomness’ scale, says Angela. It’s super easy too – simply use a dice to help you decide which action to do or position to try. 

Oral sex board game: Angela says this game will guide you to perform oral actions on different body parts. 

Strip poker or something similar: Angela shares that the competitive nature of such games can spur on the playful nature in some of us. She recommends to pair it with gradual stripping to enhance desire.

Yes-No-Maybe: This game can work as a teaser as it’s a good conversation starter. “It allows both parties to understand each other’s sexual preferences and desires, as well as respect consent and boundaries,” notes Angela. 

Here are 10 more games to add to your sexytime repertoire:

The cake game: Pretend that your partner’s body is a cake and use whatever toppings you desire to decorate it. Whipped cream, cherries, sprinkles, jam, Nutella...you get to pick your favourites. Then, lick everything off your partner.

The kissing game: Do you like to Netflix and chill? Watch a movie together and pick a word before it starts – kiss every time the word comes up in the show. You might not make it till the end of the movie but the point here isn’t really watching the film.

Shop with your eyes closed: Pick an online store that sells sex toys, then one of you uses a blindfold and clicks on something on the website. Whichever toy they choose, you have to order it and try it together. 

Naked cooking session: Cook a meal together while in the nude. Ensure that your dish is something you put in the oven to cook then have sex in the kitchen while it’s being cooked. When the oven’s timer goes off, you have to stop too. It’s a fun race against time, plus you’ll have a post-coital meal ready too.

Body painting/drawing: Paint or draw on each other’s bodies – you’ll love the sensual sensation of the brush or pen moving over your body. Tip: make sure the ink/paint can easily be washed off.

Tell me a story: Set a timer for a few minutes for each turn and both of you take turns to come up with a naughty story. Each one of you has to continue from the other person’s tale. See how long you can carry on for as you describe naughty scenarios to each other.

Shhh!: One of you has to lie still and be quiet while the other does whatever they want to your body (within  consensual bounds, of course). Set a timer for a few minutes per turn. The first one who breaks the silence – whether with words or pleasurable sounds – gets to be ‘punished’ by their partner. For more fun, add a blindfold. 

Make a sex advent calendar: You won’t have to wait till Christmas to do this. Decide on a number of days then come up with a different sex position or activity to try each day. Make sure they’re placed in random order so that you’ll get a surprise every time you open a window.

Act out a scene: Do you have a favourite sexy scene from a movie? Act it out with your partner – the more laughs that accompany your acting, the more fun it’ll be. 

Sexy treasure hunt: Hide notes around your house with intimate acts written on each of them. Get your partner to find them then do each action to you.