Fann Wong reveals her secrets to a successful and happy marriage with Christopher Lee

This year, Christopher Lee took home the award for “Best Leading Actor in a Miniseries or Television Film” for the legal drama Port Of Lies. The series was among the big winners this year, successfully snagging seven awards including, Best Miniseries, Best Screenwriting, and Viewers’ Choice, securing its spot as the top pick in the drama category. While receiving his award, Lee also thanked his wife, Fann Wong in his acceptance speech.

Though Fann was not at the award ceremony, she shared the joyful moment on social media with snippets of her and their 10-year-old son Zed cheering for Lee from home. In her caption, she wrote, “Holy Mazu (referencing the catchphrase of Lee’s on-screen character), my amazing husband, you did it!”. Lee’s response was equally sweet, “The two of you are too adorable! I love you two so much, and having the both of you is my greatest blessing!”

At the celebration event, Lee was asked about how his wife plans to reward him, to which he replied, “I give her love and she gives me love too. We have a special bond with each other, and therefore we are each other’s best gifts”. And how does he maintain their relationship while being away from home during long periods of filming? Lee cited trust as the most important thing before adding with a laugh that he goes home immediately after filming to “fulfill his responsibilities.”

Such sweetness from this lovely couple! How did they stay in a loving relationship after all these years? Here are some of the secrets from the couple themselves.

1. The ability to live happily as an individual

This year marks the couple’s 24th year together. With many around her asking how she keeps the relationship fresh, Fann shared that the key to doing that lies in one’s ability to be satisfied and fulfilled with their own life. Ensuring that you are a complete individual with a robust career and social circle while having the means to lead a fulfilling life alone can help to create a nurturing relationship with your partner.

2. Managing your emotions

Other than financial and individual independence, Fann also highlighted the importance of managing and regulating one’s emotions. She stresses that one’s happiness and emotions should not be dependent on their partner. Instead, they should be able to manage it themselves without controlling or depending on the other person. By approaching the relationship this way, both partners can further nurture their relationship without becoming overbearing.

3. Avoid neglecting your appearance

Regardless of how long you’ve been together, it is always important to take care of how you look, she says. Grooming yourself can uplift the spirits of both you and your partner. Fann believes that putting in the effort to maintain one’s appearance can help boost mood, confidence and even relationships. Overall, taking care of how you look can also be beneficial in attracting positive experiences.

4. Don’t try to change your partner

Often, people might try to mold their partners into an ‘ideal’ version of what they want. But Fann reminds us that doing this will only cause your relationships to suffer. “Everyone wants to be able to be their true selves. To maintain harmony in the relationship, couples should learn to accommodate and appreciate the strengths of each other, instead of harping on the flaws. Nobody is perfect but together, you can create a nurturing relationship”. Well said, Fann!

5. Keep the joy of sharing

When your partner shares something with you, it is vital to show interest and respond with sincerity. This helps to keep the desire to share, even after spending many years together. Continuously showing disinterest will cause your partner to slowly withdraw, causing the both of you to grow apart.

6. Create special moments with romantic gestures

Fann believes that small doses of romance and surprise in your everyday life can help to make life more interesting. And these can range from things such as gifting flowers during special occasions, to exploring new places or restaurants together.

The secret to maintaining love lies within yourself. An independent and whole individual will always be able to lead a fulfilling life with or without being in a relationship.

This article was originally published on Lianhe Zaobao and Nuyou. Translated article by Nikki Low was originally published in Women’s Weekly.