Shireena Shroff Manchharam’s tips on being kinder to yourself in 2025

New year resolutions. Detoxes, diets, Dry January. Gym memberships and the promise of a “new you.” Every January begins with a wave of well-meaning yet overwhelming messages promising quick transformations. My social media feed has shifted dramatically from Christmas cheer and family holidays to a relentless stream of “start the year right” posts. I wanted to feel inspired, but instead, I felt drained. So, I took a brief digital detox and re-centred myself to create a more realistic, sustainable approach to 2025..

Ditch the pressure

January doesn’t need to carry the weight of all your ambitions. Instead of cramming every goal into the first month, think of the year as a 365-day journey. According to a report by Ohio State University’s Fisher College of Business, nearly 43 per cent of people abandon their resolutions by the end of January – proof that trying to do too much too soon isn’t sustainable. So, how can we start the year in a healthier, more fulfilling way?

Plan your year

Look at 2025 holistically. Use a physical planner or calendar to visualise the entire year. Mark key events – birthdays, holidays, trips, and milestones. Break the year into quarters and reflect on where you want to be by December.

Ask yourself: What does my work, health, or personal life look like at the end of 2025? A long-term perspective makes goals feel more manageable and less rushed.

Set a theme

Instead of rigid resolutions, choose a word or theme for the year. Last year, my word was “commit.” Rather than setting extreme fitness goals, I focused on committing to my intentions. For example, when I went to the gym, I committed to 30 minutes on the treadmill. When my alarm rang, I allowed just one snooze before getting up. These small, consistent efforts helped me build a sustainable routine. My theme reminded me to stay accountable and created positive changes in my life. Choose a theme to keep you grounded and intentional throughout the year.

Curate your social media

Social media doesn’t have to be a source of stress. Unfollow accounts that promote unrealistic ideals and follow those that uplift and inspire. A few motivational quotes can turn scrolling into a positive experience rather than an overwhelming one.

Set daily intentions

If long-term goals feel daunting, focus on daily intentions. Every morning, I use Getting To Happy cards as reminders of small, simple changes that can boost happiness. Before getting out of bed, I take a few deep breaths and reflect on the day ahead. I might set an intention to be more mindful in a meeting, give my all during a workout, or release a lingering worry. Daily intentions feel manageable, keeping me focused and motivated.

As you look forward to the year, consider both the highs and lows – a career shift, moving home, or relationship changes. Acknowledge potential challenges and equip yourself with what you need to stay on track. Let’s move away from “new year, new you” and embrace “new year, same wonderful you.”

Shireena Shroff Manchharam is a Her World Tribe member, the founder and principal consultant of Sheens Image Consulting, and the founder and creator of Getting To Happy, a mental health movement to inspire our community and society to live happier, more mindful lives.